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I lied to myself for eight months
Published 30 days ago • 2 min read
Hey Reader,
I've been sitting with something lately. A story I told myself repeatedly.
Turns out it was only half true, and underneath that half-truth was a less cute way I saw myself that I hadn't quite realized and was starting to affect my days.
For months, I told myself (and my business advisor) that I had gone quiet since August 2025. No posting. No marketing. A little checked out.
It felt like an indisputable fact, until I went back and looked at the evidence:
I stopped sharing on LinkedIn for 5 months, not 8.
I never stopped on Instagram. I simply switched from my feed to 24-hr stories.
I doubled my newsletters until February, then took a pause. Again, not since August!
Turns out, I didn’t disappear. I had majority of my client spots filled, and quietly shifted to sharing less so I could balance out my days. I had made a deliberate choice and then forgotten I made it.
But here's the part that took me longer to see:
The lie that was eating at me wasn't really "I went quiet." The lie was what was sitting underneath it...
“I'm being a bad business owner.”
That's the one that was doing damage to my confidence and energy.
Here’s the thing about the stories we tell about ourselves: they rarely announce themselves as lies. They feel like observations. They feel neutral and obvious and true.
"I haven't been consistent."
"I've been dropping the ball."
"I should have done more by now."
We say them so naturally, so matter-of-factly, that we skip right past the question: is this true? Or is this a story I've been living with for so long that I’m remembering it differently?
Authenticity coaching isn't just taking inventory of what happened. It's getting underneath the pile of daily choices to the core stories you're holding, so you can clearly see what belief is shaping your life. The surface lie is usually protecting a deeper one, and the deeper one is always about our worth. About your capability. About whether you're doing this whole adulting thing right.
What are you letting grow underneath your doubts?
Here's the reframe I had to offer myself:
I made smart choices in a season that asked a lot of me. I didn't disappear. I recalibrated and realigned. And the fact that I couldn't see that for months doesn't make me a bad business owner. It makes me someone who needed a clearer mirror.
We all do, sometimes.
Not seeing our own blind spots is not a weakness. That's just being human inside a life that moves fast.
If you've been walking around with a lie like this, something that feels like a plain observation but has extra weight to it, I want to invite you to look underneath it.
What's the quieter belief living there? And is it actually true?
That question is often where everything starts to shift.
If you're ready to get clear about your own stories, 1:1 coaching is where we do that work together. I'm currently taking on new clients for this spring. Reply to this email and let's talk about how we can shed some of those lies.
Authenticity is a skill. Gentleness is a strength. Resentment is a map.
Here, we slow things down on purpose. I share insights from inside the coaching room, practical tools you can use right away, and invitations to talks and events that dig into the real, nuanced shifts that make our days meaningful. Think of it as your weekly permission slip to pause, breathe, and build a life that feels like yours—not just one you’re keeping up with.
